How To Be A Badass Partner

Being in a relationship is not always easy. Many situations can mess with us. But this is what makes relationships so exciting. The intention behind why you decide to stay in a relationship is crucial too. Here are my ways of how to be a badass partner so you can experience more fun and less mess :

1. Listen. It seems so easy, but it’s not. Usually, when we listen, we’re already thinking about what we want to answer the person. We don’t listen and try to understand what our partner means or is trying to tell us. Being 100% present with your partner and listening carefully to what he/she says is a game-changer!
2. Show affection. To me, this is crucial, and it’s my most important love language. Touching and being able to connect with the body of your partner will not only strengthen your immune system but also activate your happy hormones. The brain’s orbitofrontal cortex is woken up, which is linked to feelings of reward and compassion. Plus, basic warm touch calms cardiovascular stress. It activates the body’s vagus nerve, which is intimately involved with our compassionate response. A simple touch can trigger the release of oxytocin. Isn’t that amazing? To deny that is to deprive ourselves of some of life’s greatest joys and deepest comforts.
3. Control your pride/Choose love. Help your relationship by keeping a check on your ego. There are so many unnecessary fights just because both partners want to be right. Think about it. Do you really prefer to be right or rather in a harmonious, loving state? We are very complex beings, and we don’t know a lot (we think we do, lol). One day we might be convinced of something only to find out a few weeks later that it’s invalid. So, let everyone have their truth.
4. Give freedom. When we love someone, it’s easy to attach. We want our partners to be there for us, to do everything with us. Everything seems more fun with the person we love. But when your partner has hobbies that he/she can do by himself or with their friends, it will keep the fire alive. Having your own free time is amazing. Giving your partner the freedom to do whatever he/she wants is a great tool for keeping the chemistry sizzling.
5. Have conversations/ Quality time. Share what you need or want in the relationship. It’s important. I noticed that many couples just assume that their partner knows what they want or need in their relationship. Or they talked about it once and hoped that their partner would remember. We can’t read minds, or at least most people can’t. Talk to your spouse, and don’t be afraid to open up about what you truly desire. Have deeper conversations about life; talking about more in-depth topics will bond you more together. You will be amazed at how much stuff there is to talk about that is not shallow.
6. Compliment your spouse regularly. Remind your partner what he/she means to you. Remind yourself why you chose to be with your partner. Seeing their great attributes will not only feel good to them but also keep your attraction towards her/him intact. A small compliment every day might make a big difference.
7. Take care of yourself. We all know that sleep deprivation messes with our whole being. It affects our energy level, mental alertness, and mood. Interestingly, it also reduces our glucose levels, which adversely affects our self-control. The more you take care of yourself, the better you will feel, which will result in harmonious relationships. If you take care of yourself, you will automatically have more self-esteem and be more willing to give unconditional love.
8. Express gratitude. This is significant. Sometimes we forget how blessed we are. We tend to get used to what we have and take it for granted. Expressing every day for what you are grateful for, regardless if it’s for something your partner did for you or just being grateful for the day you had – has enormous effects! When you remind yourself of what you are grateful for, you will feel satisfied, which in return will positively affect your spouse.
9. Be humble. In our society, modesty is often seen as a weakness. What if the secret to success lies in the ability to express humility? Humble people put others before themselves in a mindful manner that doesn’t affect them in a bad way. They have a habit of thinking about their values when they decide to do something. The fact is that the ability to possess modesty and genuine graciousness for your partner and others can and probably will strengthen your bond.
10. Be faithful and honest. Loyalty is what most of us desire and want, whether it’s in a romantic relationship or a platonic one. We deserve honesty. Of course, it might be difficult to tell your spouse that you might be in love with someone else or that you flirted with someone and went too far. Or that you kept a secret from them. You might have done something disrespectful. It happens even to good-hearted people. We are all just human, and sometimes we lose control over our emotions. That’s fine. However, nothing destroys a relationship more than lies, dishonesty, or secrets. Being honest with your partner will not only give you a sense of integrity, but it might also bring you guys closer. Honesty is not only morally right, but it’s also efficient. Remember, the truth will set you free, for real.